Tomorrow (25th) should have been my due date. But due to the cholestasis, I was induced a week early.
The above photo was taken on 17th, the day before my induction. TJ and I were on a last-chance attempt to kick things off naturally by going on a ridiculously long walk and bouncing up and down on the see-saw at the park. Not an easy feat with a massive bump, I can tell you!
So Sunday 18th we went to the hospital at 8am for monitoring, and they began my induction at 9am with a low dose of prostin gel. It wasn't long before I was getting "tightenings" every 3 mins approximately, which continued throughout the day. However I was stuck at 2cm dilated for hours.
A couple of baths, a couple of paracetamol, and lots of moving around helped with the pain but as the evening drew in I began to feel really sick. TJ went home at 8pm and throughout the night it became obvious that things were not quite going as well as they could. I was still dilating and eventually reached 5cm by about 5am, but I had also developed very high blood pressure, my heart rate was so fast they couldn't tell if the monitor was picking up mine or baby's heartbeat and I had ketones in my urine. So I was hooked up to a monitor and a drip and finally sent to the labour ward for them to break my waters and get things moving quicker.
This is just after I'd had my waters broken and before things got really intense. TJ wanted to show how many things I was hooked up to at this point. It made moving into comfortable positions difficult and once my waters were broken and the contractions coming thick and fast I started to lose control.
Everyone had been commenting up until this point how calm I was and how they found it hard to believe I had been contracting regularly and reached 5cm dilated plus feeling so sick from the way my body was reacting to the labour with having only taken a couple of paracetamol. And I had quite reasonably replied that the intensity of the pain was no worse than what I got with my periods thanks to Endometriosis and that I had been to work in worse pain than this. However, with the added pressure of baby's head finally descending fully into the pelvis and the loss of the calmer moments between contractions this soon changed!
I quickly agreed to a half dose of diamorphine thinking there was no way I could face another 12 hours being as exhausted as I was. I was slightly put out by the midwife's comments that "labour is hard" in a sort of "what do you expect" kind of way. But she was good enough to suggest a dose of anti-emetic intravenously through my drip to help ease the side effects of the diamorphine and that a lower dose should be easier to cope with.
TJ says it was like my whole body sighed when it started to kick in, but all I remember is saying "I feel really woozy, I'm going to lie down now" and crawling onto the bed. I never thought I would labour lying down, but it was truly the only way I could cope and actually it worked to my benefit. Within 2 and a half hours I had dilated the final 5cm and although the diamorphine did nothing for the pain, it did help me drift off between contractions and so I had no idea of time passing. So I relaxed and my body took over and before I knew it every time I "woke up" to a contraction my body was pushing all on its own.
The midwife, though later telling me that I had been considered the lady least likely to deliver that day, was thrilled to see this and a quick examination showed I was ready. So I sat up to try and give birth but the urge to push disappeared. Two or three contractions later I decided to lay back down on my side and suddenly my body was pushing all on its own accord again.
It took an hour of pushing (though it felt much shorter to me because I was still drifting off between contractions) to give birth to my boy. I remember vague things like the midwife teasing TJ about pushing along with me and her telling me she could see the head, but mostly I was just aware of letting my body do the work and not thinking too much about it. In fact I was so "in the zone" that when the midwife suddenly said "look down" and I saw my baby had been born I couldn't quite believe it!
Little Man (OJD) was born at 11.27am on Monday 19th September weighing a hefty 9lbs 6oz. Nobody could quite believe I had carried and given birth to such a big baby as I am only small myself, but here he was. Proof that no matter how sick I was throughout the pregnancy, my body had done an excellent job of providing my baby with all he needed.
Unfortunately, I was advised to have a managed third stage because of the risk of excessive bleeding from the cholestasis and I ended up surviving the labour without being sick but then throwing up for quite some time after the birth thanks to the injection they use to get the placenta to deliver. So between that and still being very dopey from the diamorphine, I missed a lot of the first few hours and TJ was left to enjoy the "skin-to-skin" contact as I dozed.
I also had to be taken to theatre for stitching as not only was Little Man a big boy, he also came out with his hand by his head and I ended up with a third degree tear. So that was another hour I missed with him. And because I had been given diamorphine, albeit a smaller dose than normal, so close to giving birth Little Man was very sleepy too. So we didn't do huge amounts of bonding that day.
However I had to stay in hospital until Wednesday, so we spent a lot of that time getting to know each other. And daddy joined in too whenever he was visiting, and spent a lot of time just enjoying "skin-to-skin" contact with the baby boy he fell in love with so totally.
We have been home since Wednesday afternoon and after a couple of very difficult nights when Little Man just wanted to feed constantly (which we think is his making up for not taking much over the first 24-36 hours) and my hormones going crazy and my milk coming in, we are finally starting to get to grips with being parents.
It is so different to anything I ever imagined. So precious. And so unbelievable that we have him here.
I cannot even comprehend how my pregnancy created this beautiful boy. And I find myself blocking out the whole experience because I cannot emotionally connect the two things. I very often resented being pregnant, but I love my baby boy so much that my mind cannot find a way of accepting that the two are so closely interconnected. I find myself thinking "was it really that bad?" when I look at Little Man, but then I realise that it truly was while I was in it. It is as if I wasn't myself for 9 whole months and now I am me again, but a different me as now I am a mum.
I think it will take me a long time to come to terms with the pregnancy I had. But being a mum, well that is just the most beautiful thing I have ever experienced. And it is only day 5. I'm going to treasure every single moment as I know we won't ever be doing this again and it is just so exciting to know that our baby has the whole world to discover. Being a parent has been harder than we ever imagined already, but the love it gives us is so much bigger.
I'll be back soon with some more photos, but for now I just wanted to let you know he was here and I am enjoying all the cuddles I can get with him!
Amanda, so so incredibly pleased for you! Congratulations to you and Tim and welcome to the world Oscar! What an experience you have shared. But you did it!! Utterly happy for you bless you new Mum!
Posted by: Kelly Martin | September 24, 2011 at 03:15 PM
Hello Oscar! What a lovely name you have! I am glad you are well Amanda and hope that the sickness has stopped now!!! Congratulations to you and Tim. x
Posted by: Simone | September 24, 2011 at 06:44 PM
Oh Amanda- I'm so, so very happy for you and Tim!!! Oscar is absolutely gorgeous- he's perfection. I can't wait to see even more pictures of him. Hopefully things start to settle in even more, and I really, really hope that you're feeling 100% better!
Congratulations Mum!
Posted by: One Day | September 24, 2011 at 10:50 PM
Awww what a cutie pie! congratulations on your beautiful baby boy...being a mom is the greatest feeling in the world! P.S. Oscar shares my birthday so he'll be awesome :P
Posted by: Jenny | September 24, 2011 at 11:33 PM
Brilliant news, so pleased for you and Tim. Keep enjoying being a new little family. Juliex
Posted by: Julie | September 25, 2011 at 03:31 PM
I am so happy for you and Oscar!! What a doll! I am so sorry it took me so long to get over here and tell you how happy I am for you. I read that he was born on my phone, but haven't had a moment to sit down at the computer to send you a comment.
I can't believe how big he was! I pictured him as a tiny peanut since you were so sick, but I guess he was taking all the nutrients :)
I am proud of you. It sounds like you did great. I am so sorry you got sick after it was all said and done. What a pain. Seems like now you and Tim are both in heaven. I know it is exhausting, but so so worth it :)
xoxoxo
Posted by: Sarah | September 26, 2011 at 04:05 PM
Congrats. Oscar is one of my top 5 names. So cute. He's adorable and has the sweetest little lips!
Posted by: Isabel | September 26, 2011 at 05:43 PM
Aw, well done Amanda - Oscar is just SO adorable! Loving the pic of baby Oscar asleep with Daddy, so sweet.
xx
Posted by: Suzy Millar | September 27, 2011 at 04:51 PM
Oh my, what a wonderful post. So happy for you. You've all done so well. Cx
Posted by: Cherry Menlove | September 28, 2011 at 11:34 AM
congratulations. He is adorable. x
Posted by: sadie | September 28, 2011 at 11:50 AM